By Sabrine Mdaghri

Last semester I moved to London for love, so this edition of the SOMO really appeals to me. Two and a half years ago, my English boyfriend and I met through the ostensibly controversial dating website Tinder. We both swiped left and the rest is history. However, dating on Tinder is not as straightforward for everybody. Long term success stories are still the exception rather than the rule, which might be due to the platform’s image of being ‘the easiest way to a weekday booty call’. What do young people think about dating websites? Has the internet affected dating and relationships? Let’s ask the people of the creative ‘hipster’ hub ‘Peckham levels’.

Molly (20)

“I have met my current and past three boyfriends through Tinder. My experiences with dating online has generally been positive, though I have received some nasty remarks. These messages were usually people making comments on my gender. As someone who identifies as gender fluid, people feel like they can say anything because they are hidden behind a screen.”

“I believe dating has become much more accessible to everyone through dating apps. I know some people who discovered that their boyfriend or girlfriend was secretly using Tinder on the side. The accessibility of dating from your phone makes it easier for people to abuse it and cheat within their current relationship.”

Thomas (26) & Johan (27)

T: “We moved here from Copenhagen and have noticed the difference in usage of dating websites between London and at home. There is something strange about people from Scandinavian countries and dating websites like Tinder. In Denmark we don’t usually speak to strangers. As the whole concept of Tinder is just that, it is very foreign to Scandinavians. We are not good at small talk, which makes the first dates with strangers met through the internet very awkward.”

J: “I suppose dating has changed since the coming of the digital age. Online dating has been normalized. When I was younger, my aunt used to go on online dates and it was very frowned upon by my family. She was judged for being desperate to find love outside of the real world. Now, internet dating has become very common with people of all ages.”

Charlotte (30) & Matt (31)

C: “We met through a dating website called Hinge. I actually haven’t been on any other dates through dating websites, as I just came out of a long relationship. Hinge appealed to me as it asks to add some personal information to a profile, rather than just pictures. People still obviously look at appearances, but it makes you open to a larger variety of people.”

“I believe the internet has made people in general less social, which has changed everything when it comes to dating. You don’t go out and meet people organically as much anymore.”

M: “I hate online dating to be honest. I have only been on two first dates through the internet, one being Charlotte and the other one being my ex-girlfriend. One of my friends set this date up for me on a really drunk night.”

“I think online dating has been good for people who are not very confident in social situations. It gives them a tool to meet people who they usually wouldn’t approach.”

Last semester I moved to London for love, so this edition of the SOMO really appeals to me. Two and a half years ago, my English boyfriend and I met through the ostensibly controversial dating website Tinder. We both swiped left and the rest is history. However, dating on Tinder is not as straightforward for everybody. Long term success stories are still the exception rather than the rule, which might be due to the platform’s image of being ‘the easiest way to a weekday booty call’. What do young people think about dating websites? Has the internet affected dating and relationships? Let’s ask the people of the creative ‘hipster’ hub ‘Peckham levels’.

Sean (25)

“I myself have never used a dating website as my girlfriend and I met in person. When we got together Tinder just started to gain popularity. One of my friends is always on Tinder and is constantly swiping. I believe now he is using it out of boredom – just like Facebook or Instagram. Though, I also know people who have met their long-term boyfriend or girlfriend through it.”

“I think the internet has changed relationships in general. I think people now are happy to be dating without the physical side of it. They are happy to just have someone to talk to online. Perhaps having a relationship through the internet is as good as having one in real life.”

Sabrine Mdaghri

Editor | Illustrator

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